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#Appendix: why should this work at all?

The idea behind the post is that handling responsibilities we have to ourselves and caring for ourselves is more difficult than handling responsibilities and caring for those close to us, which means that even though asking for help introduces friction cost, ultimately, it pays off. Same observation was made both by Tumblr  (perma ):

…and by Jordan Peterson in his 12 Rules For Life:

But—and this is the amazing thing—imagine that it isn't you who feels sick. It's your dog. So, you take him to the vet. The vet gives you a prescription. What happens then? You have just as many reasons to distrust a vet as a doctor. Furthermore, if you cared so little for your pet that you weren't concerned with what improper, substandard or error-ridden prescription he might be given, you wouldn't have taken him to the vet in the first place. Thus, you care. Your actions prove it. In fact, on average, you care more. People are better at filling and properly administering prescription medication to their pets than to themselves. That's not good. Even from your pet's perspective, it's not good. Your pet (probably) loves you, and would be happier if you took your medication. [emphasis mine]